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The “I-don’t-know” mantra

i-dont-know mantra

The easiest way to recognize that you are stuck is when you hear yourself waying: “I don’t know”. And for most people this is frightening.

Fears – Usually when we are so terrified to make a mistake and take the wrong path we tell ourselves that we don’t know. The more scared we are the more we tell ourselves that we don’t know and the more we tell ourselves this the more we are re-inforcing the panic until this panic seizes completely and at the end we do really make the wrong decision. Why? Because we couldn’t see things clear. Because we were afraid. I don’t know is a dead-end street. It gives birth to more I-don’t-knows and more confusion for most people. Until it’s understood…

Feelings – In it’s essence, it takes a lot of courage to say to yourself : I don’t know. It shows quite a few things – that you are honest with yourself, that you are actually open for suggestions, to fill in this I-don’t-know with images, sensations, actions steps, plans. And, this is the real face of the fear. You are afraid more to face that you are completely honest with yourself than to face that you are at a dead end. Why? Because you don’t trust yourself and you are not confident that if you don’t know – that is very natural state. A state of mind that brings curiosity to explore, to find out, to know. And this state is called Pre-thinking state. The time and place before the thinking actually happens.

Facts – Next time, when you honestly and truly don’t know, ask yourself – What would you do if you did know? How would it feel? How would it look like? Creating your own reality is the most exciting application of the human mind. You are what you think you are, you are what your thoughts are. Thus, Cogito, egro sum. Just imagine your brain like a gigantic search engine. You type in whatever you are looking for as an answer and look for results. If there are no results – you read the message : No results found and read out loud to yourself: I don’t know the answer. Naturally. But, since YOU are theis search engine and you are also performing the searches, the next thing that happens is (of course if you don’t give up the quest at all by being too panicked by the “no results found” trap) you get into your search engine hat and you start creating new scripts, and new images, and new links in your brain, you maximize and optimize allthat and sooner of later you do the search again. You type in the same key words, the same questions. But this time – you do have “results found”.

This is how our brain operates. And as soon as we recognize that if we don’t know that’s just perfect, we become unstoppable in whatever we wish to accomplish. Because we know that the real meaning of I don’t know is – Let me start creating the “I know” NOW.

The “I-don’t-know” mantra © Tsvetanka Petrova. All Rights reserved

About the Author

Tsvetanka Petrova – Sue, the Good Karma Coach, specializes in choosing who you want to BE and being in alignment with this feeling and knowledge so that you can attract easily and effortlessly your desires along your path that correspond with who you are.


She has a first-hand experience with overcoming impossible obstacles, surviving through all storms and attaining unimaginable financial and personal success for her age as a result.

Tsvetanka’s web site: www.aheartsdesires.com and blog: www.tsvetankapetrova.wordpress.com is a valuable resource with lots of free articles and success tools.

Author’s note: Please feel free to use this article for your own web site or newsletter. However, the About the Author information and the copyright line need to be present in your reprint of this article. Also note, that this article is not to be altered or published incomplete and a copy of your reprint is sent to Sue@aheartsdesires.com

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Go into Action!

I had millions of ideas for a brighter future and the lady who was my coach said that she can support me on achieving them.

Our coaching relationship didn’t work out well though. After some time I just felt like she was pushing me to do things I felt uncomfortable with and became very stubbornly stuck and unwilling to take even a tiny step forward.

What happened I asked myself? Was what we were working on not my genuine wish, was I just lazy, was I incapable of reaching my goals. I was feeling very discouraged – up to the point where whenever she asks me when do I want to speak with her next I would automatically say to myself: “She is going to ask me again if I did my homework, but I don’t want to do it, and if I tell her that – there will be nothing to talk about”.

It took me a while to find out that actually our relationship was out of balance.

I am sure that this lady meant it well when she was instructing me what to do but in this way she was taking the responsibility for my actions literally putting the carriage in front of the horse. The coach’s role I learned afterwards is to guide the client into thinking out of the box and into creating the solutions he/she is looking for. That means that the coach by default is following and supporting the client on the client’s agenda and not the other way round.

If the coach follows his/ her personal agenda about the client and not the client’s there is a risk of imbalance which can further result in temporary delay or permanent paralyze the goal / achievement / dream that the client is striving towards. And I experienced that! Something I am so good at right now for some months went to a dangerous halt.

What happens is that when your coach starts to be accountable for your actions you start to ask him/her to do the work for you, consciously or not. Walking down that road you start to disown your dreams, you get lost because the path you follow is a borrowed one – somebody else’s picture of the future and not yours. And in the end you will also not recognize as your own the actions towards those dreams and sooner or later your goals and dreams will turn into dreadful do-to lists that never get done.

The bottom line is, if you let anybody – your coach, your spouse, you parents, your friends, your enemies to drive you around to where YOU want to go, more often than not you will arrive where the driver drives you to!


Go into Action! © 2008 Tsvetanka Petrova. All Rights Reserved.

About the Author

Tsvetanka (Sue) Petrova, the Life and Money Coach, is a successful young, fabulous and rich entrepreneur and coach who helps executives and self-employed professionals to effortlessly strengthen their talents and attract more revenue. She has a first-hand experience with overcoming impossible obstacles, surviving through all storms and attaining unimaginable financial and personal success as a result. Sue’s blog and web site are a valuable resource with free articles and success tools. You can visit them at tsvetankapetrova.wordpress.com and www.aheartsdesires.com

Author’s note: Please feel free to use this article for your own web site or newsletter. However, the About the Author information and the copyright line need to be present in your reprint of this article. Also note, that this article is not to be altered or published incomplete and a copy of your reprint is sent to Sue@aheartsdesires.com

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