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5 Setbacks that Stop You BIG Time

consciousnessHave you ever felt that you want to succeed but whatever you do there seems to be all kinds of things that are stopping you? While it is true that life happens, it’s how we respond to it that makes a difference. What usually happens is that we get accustomed to how we perceive the reality and unnoticed we react to it, again in a habitual way. Here are the 5 most common automatic reactions I see around me and how they influence your life.

1. Poverty mindset – If you consistently prime yourself with “I don’t have money”, “there is never enough”, then you set yourself up for a self-fulfilling prophecy. This doesn’t mean thatlying to yourself that you have money if you don’t will work. What it means is that as soon as you focus on “I don’t have ” and “I can’t afford”, you miss the opportunity to mobilize yourself to look for a solution instead of dwelling on the problem.

2. Powerless Attitude – You know you feel powerless when you just don’t seem to go anywhere from where you are. You will notice that you see no direction you can take and no solution by the way you look at things. Every time when you find excuses and  complain you delude yourself that you do something about the situation you are in while in fact you don’t really take any action that will bring a positive change.

3. Doubt dwelling – If you don’t believe in yourself, in what you do, that things will go in a better direction (with your active help) then  nobody else will and even if they will, your disbelief will soon discourage them. Going down a negative spiral is trapping you into inaction more than anything else. And the worst part about it is that it had the ability to signal others to stay away from clouds of gloom and doom.

4. Resistance to change – Life would be a Heaven on Earth if only everything was perfect and unchanging but that movie is not played in the cinema of real life. So,  you either go with the change, meet with your fear, go out of your comfort zone, or you resist it and stay the same and sooner or later start regreting that you do not live the life you wish you could.

5. Avoiding the NOW –  Most often, when you don’t make amends with your past (appreciate it for happening whether bringing you good or bad experience) you drive the car of your life into a forward direction looking back. Do you think you really are going far without looking at the road and the direction? Others, live in the perfect future trying to imagine it into being. And, that’s all good as long as you don’t expect to have your Olimpic medal to arrive by the mail while you do nothing to get tit in the mean time. Living in a dream for the future is like trying to catch the air around you. The past moment is already gone. The future moment is not there yet. What you have is the present moment and this is where you can determine what the future would be like for you and how you perceive the past.

Setbacks are like blind spots – different coping strategies which once upon a time we started using in order to deal with what comes our way. Maybe at that time these strategies were helping us and maybe they are still helping us in a way. There is a pay-off, something we protect ourselves from.  But, does this  align with who we are or want to be now. Once we become aware what we do and what is the protective reason to do it, we c an decide differently. We can decide to take the leading role in our life and not allow old habits to rule our life!

Tsvetanka Petrova, CPC
The Start-up Set up  Coach

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5 EASY Ways to Overcome Your FEAR

Just like everything you get good at, after a while you forget what it was in the beginning. Same happened with me. I absolutely forgot how great of a hobby I had a few years ago. My hobby was to stretch myself, i.e. go out of my comfort zone in every possible way. And let me tell you, it’s a lot of fun overcoming your own fears. Here are a few quick and easy ways to get in the game:

phonea-main_Full1. Call someone you don’t want to – We all have those crossed out names from our list of contacts, with age old stories and complicated interpersonal relations. When you think of calling then, you can almost experience a panic attack. If you’ve already imagined your horror movie experience, then you know what you should do. Call them! You can even meet with them.

SubBahamas212. Do something you can’t – One thing distinguishes those who succeed and those who don’t. Those who do don’t know the meaning of the word CAN”T. They understand it as “try again” or “watch me doing it” or “there has to be another way”. What a better way to train yourself to be successful. Do something you know you can’t. My own example is – I can’t swim. But, when I was in Bahamas, I snorkeled and I also dived (with a sub). Once in a lifetime experience!

no_hate3. Do something you hate – You can’t  like everything you do. There is always something . However, when you tell yourself that you hate doing something, you draw a line and start avoiding this activity at all cost. For example, if you hate waking up early, or doing household chores, you will most probably organize your whole life around keeping your distance from what you don’t like to manifest. The question here is, do you want those activities, or circumstances to have power over you?

2009_05_05-Learning4. Learn something new – some of my favorite excuses are – “I don’t need this” and “I don’t have time for that”. Of course you don’t. The chance is , you never will. And whether you need it or not. Is this what is important here? Life is experience. And you can choose to experience life or to have the experiences pass you by. Challenge yourself, learn new things and in the end, all the brain activity will help you have rich memories.   Discovvering new passions your can learn more about 9s great to keep your pasion for life alive.Learning and doing something new are entrenched.  Every month do something new- change your favorite sleeping position, change “your” place on the table,  change the route you take to work, etc.

business_opportunities_250x2515. Say yes to opportunities – opportunities knock on our door constantly. But what happens is, when we get too comfortable in having our life being in the way it is right now, we stop paying attention to those opportunities. When someone offers us to use the elevator, we automatically say no – because we always use the stairs. And right there – an opportunity is lost, gone forever. You can’t turn back time. So, what you can do is say yes to every opportunity that comes your way for a week. Say yes, even if you can’t say know but if you could you would. Be ready to  help out others, run chores for them, and be kind and courteous. And when someone smiles at you, be ready to smile back at them

Tsvetanka Petrova, CPC
The Start-up Set up  Coach

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5 Pleasant Ways to Chill Out

Having a business, faced every day with the unknown and with having to constantly make choices for which you know what the consequences, although unforeseen now are going to come back to you is just not easy. So, what do you do to enjoy the moment and still be in the midst of a hectic results driven busy day? Few things come to mind:

laughter_yoga21. Laughter Yoga As a wellbeing workout, the laughter yoga is a combination of laughing for no reason and yogic breathing. Even if the laughter is not real but faked the positive results for the body are the same. And which is great – it does not need much time or practice to crate a sense of well being and better health. For more information, go to

tibetan-singing-bowl2. Sound Healing with Tibetan singing bowls – like a real blonde I was really hoping to see some real singing bowls but I didn’t get this chance. However, I was pleasantly surprised how using the vibrational sound of bowls can really reduce the stress quickly, bring in sense of peace, and is used even in pain management. It does look strange but it sounds heavenly.


ph_landing_woman13. Holosync Meditation

Subliminals are audio or visual messages that exposed to your brain so fast that you don’t hear or see the messages but your brain does register them. Since the meditation is one of the most powerful ways to release stress and bring in a peaceful state of mind, what could be a better way to have the sound, the music, the affirmations, all in one place and all you have to do is sit back and enjoy.

mand_meditation4. Practice of Sahaj Samadhi MeditationSahaj means natural, effortless and Samadhi is meditative state of mind. Sahaj Samadhi is a natural, effortless meditation that centres the mind into itself and helps you have a rested feeling in less than 30 min a day. While the mind is focused on breathing all worries from the past or for the future are dispersed into the present moment.


tai_chi_chuan_by_bramer15. Tai chi chuan – Tai Chi is strangely enough a Chinese martial art. It’s not famous for that though. What it’s known for is slow motion dancelike practice easily spotted in the parks around the world in the morning. It is like a mediation in motion and is beneficial to the human health and well-being by clearing the blockages in the energy system of the body.

Tsvetanka Petrova, Start-up Set up  Coach

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How to recognize the victim mentality in 10 easy steps?

how to recognize victim mentality in 10 stepsThe huge difference between being a victim and having the victim mentality is in the word habit. As children the victim archetype as developed by Carl Jung plays a protective role – we are not to talk back to elders and / or show that we are powerful because we are not. Growing up most of us realize that the care provided by others in our childhood is not to last forever and we are to take charge of our own lives. However, some adults make a different resolution. Whether victimizing situations always seem to “find them” or they look to involve themselves in such some people walk through life as professionals in the game of “I am victim and you need to help me”. How do we recognize them?

1. Mercy – always everybody else is taking advantage of them, they are at the mercy of outside forces and it is never ever their fault.

2. Envy – they are very envious of others who get what they want in life but they will tell you the opposite – everyone is envious of them

3. Power – they will address to power in every possible way. For them power is the skirts of the mother behind which they can hide because they don’t have one themselves but because the mother (or somebody else they know / organization they can rely on) has it – they claim it as theirs

4. Blame – whatever happens in life it’s because of somebody else. They never take the responsibility of their part in the drama

5. Self-pity – they feel so sorry for themselves that with their constant complaining they make sure that you feel as equally sorry

6. Helplessness – if they don’t get what they want or the situations don’t turn out their way – they are able to let the world know that life does not treat them fairly and they deserve to be compensated for that

7. Reliance – totally and willingly dependent on others – family, organizations, etc.

8. Disconnection – they can easily shut off their true feelings in order to continue playing the game

9. Action – the actions that the victim to be are in the range of – making others feel guilty so that they can continue helping you, complaining, talking behind other people’s back etc. but never a real action towards solving the problem

10. Solution – since they are not responsible for what is happening, they are dependent of all possible factors and people, the solution to their problems should come from somebody else.

About the Author

Tsvetanka Petrova – Sue, the Good Karma Coach, specializes in choosing who you want to BE and being in alignment with this feeling and knowledge so that you can attract easily and effortlessly your desires along your path that correspond with who you are.


She has a first-hand experience with overcoming impossible obstacles, surviving through all storms and attaining unimaginable financial and personal success for her age as a result.

Tsvetanka’s web site: www.aheartsdesires.com and blog: www.tsvetankapetrova.wordpress.com is a valuable resource with lots of free articles and success tools.

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What is choice?

Every single moment in which we focus our intention on forward thinking or on keeping the status quo there is a choice. We define our lives by our decisions every minute whether we make these choices consciously or subconsciously.

An example for an unconscious choice is when we are in a situation which is not completely to our taste but we do nothing about it to turn things around so that we live our life in a way in which we are satisfied with our private life and work arrangements. In a situation like this to continue staying in this living / working situation is a choice.

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