The huge difference between being a victim and having the victim mentality is in the word habit. As children the victim archetype as developed by Carl Jung plays a protective role – we are not to talk back to elders and / or show that we are powerful because we are not. Growing up most of us realize that the care provided by others in our childhood is not to last forever and we are to take charge of our own lives. However, some adults make a different resolution. Whether victimizing situations always seem to “find them” or they look to involve themselves in such some people walk through life as professionals in the game of “I am victim and you need to help me”. How do we recognize them?
1. Mercy – always everybody else is taking advantage of them, they are at the mercy of outside forces and it is never ever their fault.
2. Envy – they are very envious of others who get what they want in life but they will tell you the opposite – everyone is envious of them
3. Power – they will address to power in every possible way. For them power is the skirts of the mother behind which they can hide because they don’t have one themselves but because the mother (or somebody else they know / organization they can rely on) has it – they claim it as theirs
4. Blame – whatever happens in life it’s because of somebody else. They never take the responsibility of their part in the drama
5. Self-pity – they feel so sorry for themselves that with their constant complaining they make sure that you feel as equally sorry
6. Helplessness – if they don’t get what they want or the situations don’t turn out their way – they are able to let the world know that life does not treat them fairly and they deserve to be compensated for that
7. Reliance – totally and willingly dependent on others – family, organizations, etc.
8. Disconnection – they can easily shut off their true feelings in order to continue playing the game
9. Action – the actions that the victim to be are in the range of – making others feel guilty so that they can continue helping you, complaining, talking behind other people’s back etc. but never a real action towards solving the problem
10. Solution – since they are not responsible for what is happening, they are dependent of all possible factors and people, the solution to their problems should come from somebody else.
About the Author
Tsvetanka Petrova – Sue, the Good Karma Coach, specializes in choosing who you want to BE and being in alignment with this feeling and knowledge so that you can attract easily and effortlessly your desires along your path that correspond with who you are.
She has a first-hand experience with overcoming impossible obstacles, surviving through all storms and attaining unimaginable financial and personal success for her age as a result.
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